Thursday, November 16, 2017

The Final Word on Health



With the rise of smartphones and the newly formed habit of humanity documenting our lives via pictures posted on social media platforms, our species had figured out yet another novel way to aggravate and torment one another: judging and shaming strangers from a distance. No subject is off limits but very often it’s about the health, body size, food choices and morality we can assume about one another based on those posted pictures.

Let’s look at just food photos and assume that we’re talking about ones that document vegan food. Here’s no need to argue about the ethics of eating animals because I am just talking about vegan food here. As much as some vegans say that omnivores are always attacking them, my observations lead me to believe that vegans attack from within just as often if not more. There are various ways that vegans make assumptions about and attack one another in the public square of social media using just food photos as the springboard.

One way we do that is to assume that a picture of one meal is indicative of that person’s entire diet. (Not that it is anyone else’s business if it is.) Another way is to issue random opinions on the healthfulness or lack thereof on social media shares where that opinion wasn’t solicited. Yet another way that we issue create a hostile environment around food is asking a fusillade of questions – some clearly “gotcha” style – or by blurting out shaming opinions about innocuous food posts: “Is it gluten-free?” “Is it GMO?” “Yikes, look at the sodium content!” “I don’t eat processed foods.” (Um, did anyone ask? And yes you do eat processed food.) I see this happening on vegan Facebook pages all the time. And there is yet another way that we feed into an environment of hostility and competition about food, one that I have seen creeping up a lot these days. It is acting as the arbiter of what is and is not the healthiest way to live as a vegan. No wonder people just exploring veganism are intimidated: they will post a picture of an ingredient’s panel, asking if it’s vegan, and an hour later, they’ll have 2,013 opinions – often very combative ones – on the ingredients that have nothing to go with veganism.

Let’s see the people they may encounter. We have:

* Vegan A, who claims that eating mono-meals of fruit is the ideal diet. Consuming massive amounts of bananas, mangoes, watermelons, dates and papayas is advised. If you’re not eating only fruit, you’re killing yourself! Or we have…
* Vegan B, who claims that Vegan A is wrong. Don’t just eat fruit: as long as you are a raw foodist, that is enough and that is the ideal diet. If you don’t cook anything over 104 degrees, you will be the eating the healthiest diet. If you’re not a raw foodist, you’re killing yourself! And we have…
* Vegan C, who claims that Vegans A and B has it all wrong. Vegan A isn’t eating enough variety and Vegan B’s diet is too high-fat with all the nuts, seeds and avocados. The true ideal vegan diet is high-carb, with lots of potatoes, beans and rice but very limited fat. If you’re not a high-carb vegan, you’re killing yourself! But don’t forget about…
* Vegan D, who claims that Vegans A, B, and C are all wrong because what you really need to do is limit carbs – simple and complex – to be the healthiest vegan. If you’re not a low-carb vegan, you’re killing yourself! Vegans A, B, and C are totally wrong. And, of course, we will return to...
* Vegan A, who claims that D is very wrong, as well and B and C, of course. Also: you’re killing yourself!

Be forewarned: vegans A - D will have ample proof and “proof” to back up their claims and they will post – again without solicitation – copious links to random websites, two-hour long videos you’re expected to watch, articles, memes, personal testimonials and on and on and on to make their case. If you don’t read their lengthy articles or watch their long, poorly produced videos, they will say, “Did you even look at the link???” They will often say that you can do what you like, but they are interested in being “healthy” vegans.

This is why I am wary of people who claim to be “healthy” vegans: while one person thrives as a raw foodist, another does not, whereas someone else can load up on grains and potatoes and feel great while another feels awful with an emphasis on carbs. The fact is, no one has the final word on what constitutes “healthy;” it really does come down to how individuals do best. Some of us do just fine as regular ol’ vegans and haven’t asked for opinions.

The conceit that there is one way to be a healthy vegan is just that: a conceit. Implying that you have the insider knowledge on being bulletproof is solipsistic, dishonest and presented on the wobbly platform of confirmation bias. None of us knows the ideal vegan diet for someone else and we need to stop acting like we do. Vegans creating a hostile and obnoxious environment around animal-free food is probably the worst thing we can do to the beings who so desperately need positive and effective advocacy on their behalf.

PS - Could we mind our own business unless asked for our opinions? That would be fab!

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Introducing Vegan Holidays for Everyone!



You all. YOU ALL. Okay, so about two weeks before Chicago VeganMania, John and I had this wacky idea to create a little Halloween recipe e-book. But then the thought of creating something bigger – and actual holiday cookbook and guide – struck us like a lightning bolt and it just snowballed from there. (Yep. I’m overdoing it with the weather-related metaphors, but, yeah, this happens with the kind of sleep-deprivation that writing a 260-page book in less than two months will do necessitates.) Anyway, this book,
Fun, Festive and Fabulous Vegan Holidays for Everyone: Recipes, Puns, Historic Lore and More to Help You Celebrate Without Compromise, has classic recipes featured on VeganStreet.com and lots of new ones, organized around ten holidays and it practically wrote itself, it was that fun and natural to write. Not just recipes, Vegan Holidays for Everyone is also sprinkled generously with silly puns, great pictures, historical lore, vegan advice and much, much more. It was truly a labor of love and we are so, so proud of it and excited to show it off to the world. Written for vegans, people who are transitioning or trying to eat more vegan as well as the random omnis who just want to cook for their irritating vegan nieces and nephews, Vegan Holidays for Everyone has more than 70 vegan and gluten-free recipes for every skill level. Read more about it at the link and consider supporting your local vegan feminist agitator.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

A Mindful Interview with "Mindful Vegan" Lani Muelrath



I admit it: I did not initially approach writing this in the most mindful way because I was having a hard time finding the time to read the book.

I tried to squeeze it in between other projects. Didn’t work.
I aimed to do it on the weekend. I resented it.
I attempted to shame myself into powering through. Did not reap great results.
I was short-tempered with my loved ones. See above.

Finally, one night I read one page. Then another and another and another until it was something I wanted to ditch my other work to do. Even as someone who already tries to practice mindfulness, I had put off reading the book because I was too slammed with busyness and life to really immerse myself in it. (Part of why I am so busy is the story I tell myself that I am only worthwhile if I am slammed with projects but that’s a story for another day.) This busyness and avoidance was causing anxiety, guilt, resentment and on and on until I finally cracked open The Mindful Vegan: A 30-Day Plan for Finding Health, Balance, Peace, and Happiness by Lani Muelrath and realized that it was precisely because of that feverish, unsustainable pace and mentality I keep up that I needed to read this book. And it’s been very rewarding to do so.  

Mindfulness is such a buzzword these days. Why? I think that as the world feels more chaotic and people understand more the importance of self-care in big picture of building a better world, it’s becoming more of a priority. Interestingly, I have heard some people voice displeasure with the term “mindfulness” because isn’t part of the problem that our minds are already full-to-bursting with thoughts and endless reams of information? Professor and Daring Greatly author Brené Brown suggests we use the term “courageous presence” instead. Regardless of what term you use, every day the benefits of mindfulness are becoming more evident and one of the primary vehicles to cultivating it, meditation, helps us to become less reactive to our thoughts and more tuned in to how we can shift to and nurture a more balanced, positive and supportive state of mind.

This is where The Mindful Vegan comes in. With a 30-day plan to take you through the often challenging early stages of creating a meditation practice – along with free guided meditations for each corresponding daily chapter – you can be on your way from not being able to sit in meditation for a minute to a full 30-minute sitting practice (and more if you desire). By providing the essential building blocks to meditation and growing on that minute-by-minute with each subsequent chapter and meditation sitting, Lani Muelrath sets her readers up for success. It is particularly written for both vegans and those trying to transition, making an excellent case for how veganism aligns with a mindfulness practice, and why vegans might benefit from living in the world with more mindfulness as well. As someone who was among the many that at one time thought they couldn’t meditate to being someone who now meditates daily, I think of the practice like a shower for my brain, or maybe windshield wipers that help to clear off my murky glass. I had many trials and errors on my way to building a consistent practice, though, sometimes giving up for years at a time. I wish I had this book – written with wisdom, compassion, understanding and lucid, helpful guidance – during many of my previous attempts. Her steps and guidance really create an excellent foundation for meditation, something that can feel so elusive and out-of-grasp, and mindful living.


As a longtime educator, public speaker and vegan living enthusiast, Lani brings her extensive experience with a mindfulness meditation practice and considerable strengths as a communicator to her latest book. It is written with grace, confidence, patience, passion and humility, keeping readers engaged and rewarded throughout. I cannot recommend this book enough. (In fact, I am honored to have contributed a small section to the book.) Having met the author in person, and being impressed by her positive, friendly and open attitude and warmth, I can say that if a mindfulness practice can help us all bring a higher level of peace and consciousness to our lives, the whole world would benefit.

1. What do you mean when you say “mindfulness”?

My working definition? It’s a good place to start as it clarifies the foundation for conversation:
 
Mindfulness is a specific form of mental training, and a particular kind of awareness you bring to your daily activities. Together, these lead to reductions in reactivity and the cultivation of positive brain states.

To elaborate on “reductions in reactivity” – how much of our day is filled with reacting out of habit to someone, something, some situation – in a way that multiplies misery? This is precisely what mindfulness practices help to alleviate. 

And as for positive brain states – our mental habit of wandering mind, ruminating over the past or chewing excessively on future “what ifs”  literally move us into a part of the brain where also reside sadness, depression, cravings - even addiction. By cultivating mindfulness – the ability to be more present in this moment, and actually doing what we’re doing while we’re doing it – unobscure our endogenous happiness, peace of mind, equanimity, and compassion. They are all there – we’ve just heaped busy lives and busy minds on top of them!

I teach mindfulness in The Mindful Vegan via two pathways: formal practice (specific form of mental training) and awareness you bring to the rest of our day outside of formal practice, called informal practice, or active, mindful living.

2. Do vegans necessarily automatically practice mindful living?

Um, no. Our automaticity with habits of thinking, reacting, behaving, are cultivated by years of lack of any kind of training at getting some degree of master over our habits of thinking. This plagues us just as it does everyone else.

Vegans do possess a consciousness about living that is certainly more mindful of the horrors of animal agriculture and awareness of human entitlement around animals. Vegans are more mindful of the millions of ways this shows up in how humans treat animals as objects for one use or another. This is one aspect of mindful living.   

3. Do omnivores necessarily not practice mindful living?

For years, I have seen and read – you may have seen them too - books about mindful eating and mindful living. Not a one of them – that I could find, anyway –addressed mindfulness from the perspective about what or who is on our plate, or how it or they got there, or the collateral damage it causes to our health, the planet, and the other sentient beings with whom we share her. This is one of the reasons I wanted to write The Mindful Vegan. Mindful eating does not mean chewing each bite of cowburger 32 times while eating off of nice dinnerware and listening to classical music. More important is the mindfulness surrounding the contents of our plate.

You included the broader ‘living’, though, and not just eating. The same thought reaches into every other aspect of our daily lives – mindfulness of what we wear, the products and services we buy. It can be an endless investigation so we do the best we can, keeping in mind that the main thrust of veganism is causing the least harm possible. It is so easy to do this in so many venues, especially with what we eat. We more often than not have a choice.

4. How does mindfulness extend beyond the table for vegans? For example, how can we practice the habits of mindfulness coexisting in the world as vegans? What occasions might arise that call for it? It seems to me that we could be better communicators of the vegan message if we’re less reactive and more mindful.

This realm of mindfulness potential for vegans is huge. And this is where we can also refer back to the definition of mindfulness and reactivity from the first question. 

Those of us who have been aspiring to be conscious eaters as vegans for any length of time know the stress and anxiety surrounding the reality of the food culture - right down to being the only vegan at the table. We can – and often do – anticipate the redundant questions, the resistance, even hostility from those who don’t - or don’t wish to - examine other factors of what they eat other than taste. Perhaps they are even concerned with health, yet without taking into the bigger picture of health, which reaches to that of our environment, and how our health is affected by the dissonance of saying we love animals while eating them. This is where the resistance comes from, not from anything, necessarily, that we may say. Even quietly enjoying our plant-sourced meal, who of us has not felt a degree of tension in the air?

First, it is important to understand where this tension may be coming from. That alone, however, is usually not enough to allow us to navigate these situations and conversations with equanimity, let alone skill.

With mindfulness practice, as I teach in The Mindful Vegan, you learn how to get some degree of mastery over your habits of thinking which includes anxiety and automated reactivity in these situations. You learn not to suppress or ignore these emotions, or tell yourself you shouldn’t feel them, or try to intellectualize your way out of them, but to navigate them in a new way so that you can actually be more present with others in a fashion that builds harmony and compassion, rather than exaggerating a polarized position. 

This makes us more effective as advocates or activists.  Being wrapped up in reactivity and anger - even rehearsing clever comebacks that are designed to blame and shame – pull us out of actually being present with others, ourselves, and life in each situation as it arises. As you become more able to tap into your natural equanimity and kindness, these become the more prevalent experience in these conversations and situations.

In my experience, the way we can be most effective at bringing others to vegan living is to embody, the best we can, those qualities that we champion: kindness, compassion,  non-harming, acknowledgement... Have you ever made a change, as an adult, that has been foisted upon you through blame and shame? Probably not. When we bring to the surface our innate happiness and ease, which allows us to live as happier, healthier, resilient, thriving humans, we are more likely to draw others to the joy of the vegan experience.

This is not to be confused with passivity. Inner connectivity, ease, and consistency strengthen our ability to make a difference in the movement in different ways depending on our personalities and strengths. The practice of Vipassana meditation, which I teach in The Mindful Vegan, grows your ability to observe yourself so that you can connect with your feelings and emotions, and respond with more skill. This awareness joined with the space around all of it that you create with mindfulness practices makes it increasingly possible to overcome your own fear and anger to respond with firm, non-hateful or belligerent, honest straightforward forceful speech. It is known as rightful speech. Not every time, but increasingly as you become more practiced in the basic practices of mindfulness training and bringing it to active living in the world. This is very important for the movement.

A good example of right speech is vegan activist James Aspey. James has the uncanny ability – most of the time – in conversations with non-vegans, to be direct without being belligerently confrontational. You can tell while watching these conversations, many of which are on his YouTube channel, that he is listening to the other person, being completely present with them, and connecting with them as a human being. He is clear with his own opinion, without being caught in reactivity or a pre-set story. This is what impresses us so much about watching these interactions. And I am certain that, along with some natural talent for communication, it is because James practices meditation – the same school of practice as I do and as I teach in The Mindful Vegan. It is one important reason that he was so enthusiastic about endorsing my book and providing a cover quote.

As Dr. Melanie Joy penned for the very first page in The Mindful Vegan,
“Mindfulness is probably the most important practice we can ever under­take. The more we are able to be mindful, or present, the more we are able to feel authentically connected with ourselves and ‘others.’ The ability to be present is at the heart of all healthy relationships: with other humans, with nonhuman beings, with the planet, and with ourselves. When we are present, we relate to all aspects of our lives—including our eating habits—with greater awareness, compassion, and health.”

5. What are your first signs – physical or mental – that you are not being mindful?

Increased reactivity, excessive rumination, uncontrollable wandering mind – where you can’t stop running in unproductive thinking loops.  Automaticity – acting, speaking, and being hijacked by your thoughts on autopilot. This can show up as mindless snacking, cravings, compulsive behavior of any kind, surprising outbursts of anger, heightened stress, escaping through one obsession or another. These are all signs of being pulled out of a mindful presence.

Unchecked automaticity, reactivity, and excessive rumination hooks neural activity associated with negative brain states – cravings, sadness, depression, obsession, even cravings and addictions. Being mindfully present brings brain activity directly out of these states. It’s like turning on and off a switch, or changing tracks in the train station. Bringing yourself back to the present actually moves brain activity into another center of the brain where reside happiness, joy, compassion, and equanimity. 

6. It seems to me like I hear so many people say that they “can’t meditate” like there is something uniquely wrong with them when, in fact, it is just so much about how our frenetic brains are wired that it feels alien at first and people give up. What do you say to someone who thinks she “can’t meditate”?

This is a universal experience. We sit down to fill just two or three minutes with being present with the breath coming in and out of the body, and our minds become instantly rambunctious – like the windup monkey toy with the clapping symbols in his hands. In truth, that’s what our minds are always doing – we just don’t notice it. We are usually just listening to the mind’s every story and following its every whim, as if we had no choice in the matter. And actually, unless we undergo some kind of training for the mind – which most of us never got in school or otherwise – we don’t. We don’t even know that there might be the possibility of a choice.

It is very helpful to hear that meditation practice is not about trying to stop thoughts or to not think during meditation practice. Thinking is what the mind does. What we are doing with mindfulness practice is discovering that we don’t have to believe everything we think, or go with every story the mind conjures up. Viktor Frankl said “Between stimulus and response there is a space.  In that space is the power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom”. Mindfulness practices are about expanding that space, so we can grow our ability to choose and live more skillfully, rather than out of reactivity. With mindfulness training, you do little things with your mind that make big changes in your brain and experience of living.

7. Does meditation get easier over time? Conversely, do you still have days that are challenging for you with your meditation practice?

Yes, and yes.  Easier is probably not the best word. But as you develop the ability, through simple mental training, to not let yourself be hijacked by every thought, and to bring yourself back to the present – whether in formal practice or living with all the ups and downs of life –it becomes a skill you are better at, just like any skill you might practice. Sometimes my sitting practice is spacious, still, transcendent, the mind seems to settle a little more, or I am better at not engaging it its constant chatter, and the experience is very pleasant. Other times I can be off and wandering in thought for five minutes before I realize it and must once again bring myself back to practice.

The important thing, I remind myself, is that it is the practice of bringing the attention back to anchor point from its habit of wandering that is key.  Having a quiet mind, no thoughts occurring, being perfectly happy every minute to sit still – these are going to come and go, just like everything else. The point is to learn to hold steady and navigate these ups and downs – a skill directly applicable to the next meal, the next challenging encounter – the next life experience.

8. How does mindfulness benefit someone who wants to transition to veganism easier?

Through mindfulness practices you become more acquainted with yourself in ways that may have previously been unimagined. You become more acutely aware of inconsistencies in your life, dissonance between what you value and what your actions may demonstrate.  You become more attuned to the impact of your choices - and that includes what you eat. I have a direct personal experience of this that I wrote about in The Mindful Vegan. It was my mindfulness practice that eventually pushed me to get dairy products off my plate, the last holdout from my previous vegetarian diet. I became increasingly uncomfortable with something as simple as driving on roads that passed through fields of cows, knowing I was contributing to their miserable fate. Mindfulness practices sharpen your interoception, or perception of how things feel in your body – with everything from emotions to hunger and fullness. Increasingly I became aware of the feeling of dissonance in my body when the cows in my presence brought up the inner conflict. Even though I had increasing cognitive knowledge about the problems with dairy, the actual feeling of that inner dissonance is what inspired the tipping point. Eating in closer alignment with your ethics and natural compassion brings a profound sense of well-being. This is the joy of being vegan, which so many of us wish to convey to others.

9. Why do you think that so few people in the personal growth world adopt a vegan lifestyle?

Food is one of the strongest foundations and connections of our experience – with family, and culturally and socially. For eons we’ve gathered around the fire to enjoy familiar foods, nourish ourselves and each other. Giving and receiving food are two of the kindest and most pleasurable acts we can engage in. When we make a noticeable shift in that tradition by changing what we eat and questioning what has always been on the table because we have seen the circumstances behind it, it brings up all the issues of breaking with the familial and societal status quo. This may then become relationship challenging territory into which people interested in personal growth may not want to venture. 

There’s also something known as the Meat Paradox – central to the studies on Day 19 of The Mindful Vegan. The Meat Paradox, briefly, is when people awakened to the contradiction of eating animals while loving them actually become more militant in opposition to giving up animal products. It causes the discomfort of conflict within them. We, as vegans, uncover this discomfort, even if we haven’t said or done anything to directly cause opposition. We become the messenger they want to shoot. Understanding this, as ironic as it may be, is very helpful in developing compassion for and being present in these circumstances.

10. I think it’s amazing that as part of the book, readers get access to your 30-days of guided meditations. It’s such a value added. What do you think makes your program different?

Thank you! I tried to think of as many ways as I could to encourage people to try these tools out for themselves. Setting it up as a 30-day plan is one of those ways – instead of having a book with some great ideas that you could get to later, I wanted to make the practice easily accessible, with full instruction, from Day One. The audios I made as companion - now downloadable immediately on my website (the instructions for how to navigate to them are in The Mindful Vegan in Resources) is another. And I wanted to make them free, to make it even easier.  I have partnered with Insight Timer App (to bring several tracks to the public at large, so people could try them and also so that people could find out that there is a project available that brings these two together – mindfulness and veganism – via The Mindful Vegan. Though she is a book, I actually see this as a project. I have been teaching and leading group meditations all over the place at no charge, to further the reach of this valuable message. My intention is to bring more ease of living and restore the pure joy of eating, and to assist and support the challenges of being vegan in an omnivorous world, so that we can be better advocates for change and more effective at touching the world. This starts with an inner connection and also reaches into the deep need to address compassion fatigue. I am deeply honored that Dr. Melanie Joy refers to The Mindful Vegan in her new book about living vegan, Beyond Beliefs, and that she recommends The Mindful Vegan in her Center for Effective Vegan Advocacy trainings.  This is a long answer to your question, yet together they all underscore the uniqueness of this book.

These qualities, along with the fact that this guide is written by a teacher – I have taught for over four decades at both the college and middle school level – which means I am practiced in figuring out how to take what might be a complex challenge and break it down into step-by-step doable bits. In this way, skills build one upon another. This is in contrast to meditation guides that present a random set of techniques, all of which may be excellent, but I have found can leave you a bit lost as you try to figure out how to best proceed. I’m also an academic, which means I value the science behind what I teach and practice, and The Mindful Vegan is packed with references to the research on the benefits of mindfulness training, of which there are now thousands of research studies.  These practices have been shown to have positive benefit on everything from stress and anxiety management to smoking cessation to binge eating – and it’s all there in the book.

Thank you, Lani! I am so grateful for this book.

Thursday, October 19, 2017

Me too.


Sunday was supposed to be a day of rest for me, something I don’t do very well or very often so I really have to schedule it in. The past few months have been particularly harried and hectic, going from the weeks that bookend Chicago VeganMania to an ambitious project that has taken up a lot of my life as well as my regular work and activism. I was looking forward to Sunday with a little too much anticipation. The day before, I’d participated in a rainy protest, high-fived my sister Handmaids and booked home to finish preparing the house – and the food – for hosting our annual vegan Halloween party. These are things I wanted to do but not exactly relaxing. All I had on the docket for Sunday was a yoga session and lounging in my PJs. Yes, I actually wrote that on my calendar. Even when I’m in relaxation mode, I get all Type A about it, apparently.

Sunday morning, dutifully in my PJs, I went on Facebook to get caught up with what was happening in the world and with my friends and within minutes, I saw my first “#MeToo” post. (Read this first, please.) I didn’t realize at the time that it was part of a larger momentum; I felt sad when I saw her post and commented on it but I thought it was just from her. Then as I scrolled on, I saw more and more of these same posts pouring in, copied-and-pasted, many with long threads under them, often with just those two stark, staccato words: Me too.


My intention of not getting up off the couch Sunday was kind of fulfilled in that I really did not get up much but it was because I was sunk into place as I saw the steady stream of #MeToo posts filling my feed. In fact, it was so pervasive Sunday that if something wasn’t a #MeToo-inspired post, it was noticeable. Some people just commented #MeToo but there were also women flooding in with their own stories of being sexually harassed, threatened, abused, attacked and more. I couldn’t look away. My chest felt a little more compressed with each passing minute. It felt like a grey cloud, heavy with rain, had settled within me and was pressing against my heart, a familiar feeling when these thoughts return.

There is a lot that I have stuffed away in order to remain a functioning member of society. I suppose this is probably true of most of us. But for many females, especially when we’re younger, sexual abuse in its many manifestations is just the environment we live in. It is our normal. As such, we accrue a lot of wounds without really even keeping note of it. If we weren’t raped at knife-point, we consider ourselves lucky and, in fact, we are lucky but isn’t setting the bar this low very sad?
It is just so normalized, though, so much the water we swim in and the air we breathe that we scarcely notice it. As Marshall McLuhan observed, “If a fish could talk, water is the last thing it would identify as part of it’s environment.” Feminist scholar Catharine MacKinnon built on this, saying, “All women live in sexual objectification the way fish live in water.”

On Sunday, the dam sprung a leak. It was a trickle of water at first, seemingly pushed out by the Harvey Weinstein scandal*, and it quickly became a deluge of water we were wading in, surging together to become a tidal wave of shared experiences. If I may beat this metaphor into the ground, on Sunday the floodgates crashed open for many of us, sweeping us all up in the murky waters. I was surprised but I shouldn’t have been. My peaceful, lazy, chill plans for Sunday were forgotten as I sat captive, wiping away tears and quietly sobbing, as story after story of everyday and monstrous abuse filled my eyes and stoked new life into some long-shut out embers of memories.

The thing is that I am safe now. I am in a home of my choosing, with a loving family of my choosing and the kind of support network I could have only dreamed about when I was at my most vulnerable. I can say without reservation that I love the life I’ve cultivated. It wasn’t always this way, though. I practice yoga and meditation in large part to file down the jagged edges of trauma and for the most part, I’m successful with this practice. It truly does help. Sunday rather gutted me but underneath that was a foundation of knowing that I’m safe and loving the life I’ve created. Some old ghosts, though, boy did they howl at me.

Sitting on the couch, unwelcome, disembodied hands touched me again, grabbing newly developed, tender breasts without consent. Adult hands, young hands, familiar and unfamiliar hands. Particularly awful catcalls in my ears, threats of rape. There were less impressionistic memories, too: Passed out the first time I ever drank, waking up on a pile of coats and someone on top of me, the older guy who got us into the party, someone I was lead to believe could be trusted. More unwelcome hands groping me at my first and second jobs. Daily. The guy rubbing himself and trying to lift my skirt on the train. (A whole different time, a CTA employee screaming at me in public as I paid for my fare for having the gall to wear a skirt on the train – I hadn’t even remembered that nugget until just now.) The guy from the band cornering me in a room and his band mate driving me home to help me out; I had to run out the door to get away from him, too. The family doctor who had his hands under my shirt before I even knew what was happening for an impromptu breast exam at age 19 when I’d gone in for an earache. The stranger who grabbed me on the street, hand over my mouth, easily twice my size. Stuff in my home growing up that left a permanent scar along with a lifetime of issues. Much more that is too gruesome and private to say here but was revisited Sunday, playing like a slow reel in my mind.

I am just one, though, and a pretty lucky one, all things told. Magnify it by pretty much 100% of females, and you get a clearer picture of the breadth, scale and ubiquity of what has happened and is happening to our mothers and grandmothers, daughters and nieces, neighbors and co-workers, dear friends and acquaintances, mail carriers and cashiers. This is the water they – and we – swim in. My stories are not particularly unique or horrible in the context of that massive body of water.

The thing is, less than a week out, I can already sense that people are getting sick of hearing about it. It’s the same mentality that told me to push this stuff away: Can we just move on? Don’t be such a victim. The problem is that we have always ultimately “just moved on” and if we don’t want any more deluges, we will finally have to face and dismantle what we do to females in this world. There is a name for this disease – it’s called patriarchy and it’s called misogyny – but what can we do now to heal survivors, stand up for women today and to raise future generations of girls and boys who are free from its clutches? (Remember that everyone suffers under patriarchy, even those who seem to rule.)

Some random thoughts…

- We can listen without defensiveness. This includes listening without arguing. This includes not hijacking stories. This includes not interrupting.

- We can tell our stories despite the pressures to stay silent.

- We can also respect that we know what is best for our sense of safety and maintain our boundaries around that.

- We can stop “joking” about sexual violence and rape.

- We can stop using gendered words to verbally attack and demean women.


- We can treat one another as more than our perceived sexual value.

- We can stop calling women teases if we change our minds.

- We can be honest about our own transgressions against others. We can apologize if it is appropriate. Most important, we can vow to do better.

- We can stop victim blaming immediately. No matter where she was, what she was wearing and if she was drinking or not, we must shift the responsibility of sexual harassment and abuse away from victims/survivors and onto the perpetrators and enablers without qualification.

- We can stop slut-shaming immediately. We can excavate the virgin/whore complex we’ve internalized and give it a proper, permanent burial.

- We can raise our daughters and mentor young people to understand that they should have no pressure to accept unsolicited comments, touches and attention.

- We can forgive ourselves for the things we accepted that have left us confused, conflicted and full of self-doubt. (This is very important.)

- We can do what is necessary to make females feel safer in a world steeped in rape culture: don’t sit next to us if there are empty seats elsewhere; don’t walk too close behind us, especially at night or in secluded areas; don’t stare.

- We can raise boys who aren’t entitled and arrogant. We can start a conversation when we see images of sexual harassment and violence in everyday life, including cartoons. We can raise boys who opt out of the “masculine ideal.” We can raise boys who respect girls and women. We can raise boys who aren’t restricted by gender stereotypes. We can raise girls like this, too.

- Especially if you are a man, you can immediately and decisively call out rape culture, sexual harassment, abuse and exploitation when you see it. You can support others who do the same. Yes, it may be uncomfortable. Do you think it's comfortable to be harassed?

- If you have friends, relatives, coworkers, etc. who treat women with disrespect, creep on women and otherwise make the world unsafe for females, call them out, especially if you are a man. Stop making excuses for bad behavior immediately.

We need to create a world where sexual harassers and abusers have no place left to hide instead of hiding in plain sight as they do today. If we can create a groundswell of unity behind the idea that sexual abuse and misogyny are not acceptable, we can change the world. We need to change the culture around it, though, for that to happen. For us to do that, we need to step up to the plate in tangible, transparent, confident and consistent ways.

Men, I am challenging you to do more for women, a lot more, so that a girl being raised today doesn’t grow up in a climate where she feels lucky if she wasn’t raped at knife-point. That isn’t too much to ask for, is it?

Are you sick of hearing about it? Too bad. We're sick of living in it.

#metoo

*This is really not a scandal but the underbelly of the status quo no one talks about. The “scandal” is it’s finally being talked about.

Friday, October 13, 2017

10 Questions: Vegan Rock Star with Nathan Runkle



Back when Vegan Street was in its original incarnation, we had a P.O. box we’d check a couple of times a week for picking up t-shirt orders – so, yes, this was the olden days – and we would sometimes get a check from a young teen in Ohio named Nathan Runkle. We got orders from all over the country but there was something about these orders, written with a young person’s handwriting, sent from a town we’d never heard of in Ohio that really gave us a sense of hope and excitement for the burgeoning vegan movement we were just starting to notice rising up everywhere in those early days.

Today, of course, this young teen in Ohio has grown up to be one of the most formidable, respected and well-known voices in animal advocacy through his work with the organization he founded as a 15-year-old in 1999, Mercy for Animals, which has grown into a powerful force of change-making for farmed animals with Nathan at the helm, leading a dedicated, talented staff, inspiring countless volunteers, awakening many, many more and, most important, saving lives. I have so much admiration for Nathan and what he has accomplished so far, which is really still in its infancy, I suspect. Now, Nathan is doing a tour in support of his new book, Mercy for Animals: One Man’s Quest to Inspire Compassion and Improve the Lives of Farm Animals. Despite everything, though, Nathan will always be that sweet farm kid from Ohio to me, the one who gave me so much hope back in 1999 and has gone on to far exceed my expectations. Love you, Nathan Runkle! I am honored to feature Nathan as this week’s Vegan Rock Star.

1. First of all, we’d love to hear your “vegan evolution” story. How did you start out? Did you have any early influences or experiences as a young person that in retrospect helped to pave your path?

My “vegan evolution” started with an evolution in my perception of animals. Sometimes big lessons come in small forms. In the book, I tell the story of Caesar, a beautiful Siamese rat, whom I rescued from a laboratory breeder when I was just six-years-old. Caesar became my best friend. He was playful, smart, and social and would come running when I called his name. But when I’d bring friends over to meet Caesar, many would shriek at the sight of him. "Eww! His tail!" they would say. They judged Caesar based on what he was, not who he was.

I began to realize that the prejudices we have about animals are really about us, not them.

It’s because of Caesar that I started to challenge the arbitrary lines our society draws between animals considered "pets" and "pests," "friends" and "food."

2. Imagine that you are pre-vegan again: how could someone have talked to you and what could they have said or shown you that could have been the most effective way to have a positive influence on you moving toward veganism?

Simply having a positive, healthy, joyful vegan role model would have been super helpful for pre-vegan me. Someone who showed me that there was a way to live that reflected my compassionate values, was healthy for my body and spirit, and easy and delicious. I think for many people, having someone show them that there is a better way goes a very long way.

3. What have you found to be the most effective way to communicate your message as a vegan? For example, humor, passion, images, etc.?

I always try to be authentic and share stories – whether they are stories of animals I’ve met, how great I feel being vegan, etc. Anytime we can speak from personal experiences with “I” statements, the less judgmental and threatening it is to others. No one can discount your own experience and feelings. I also always try to communicate from a place of love and understand, rather than judgment or criticism.

4. What do you think are the biggest strengths of the vegan movement?

We have love, compassion and truth on our side.

5. What do you think are our biggest hindrances to getting the word out effectively?

Willful ignorance.

6. All of us need a “why vegan” elevator pitch. We’d love to hear yours.

If you don’t want to pay people to abuse animals in horrific ways on your behalf, going vegan is a beautiful way to live a healthy life that’s centered on compassion for all.

7. Who are the people and what are the books, films, websites and organizations that have had the greatest influence on your veganism and your continuing evolution?

Too many to list.

8. Burn-out is so common among vegans: what do you do to unwind, recharge and inspire yourself?

Balance is so crucial. We have an epidemic of burnout within the vegan and animal rights movement. It’s something we need to talk about and address, as we are loosing far too many people and with them all of their knowledge and skills. For me, it means taking care of myself – mentally and physically. Facing the reality of factory farming on a daily basis can be emotionally traumatizing. It’s important to recognize that, first and foremost, so we can nurture ourselves. For me, that means going to therapy, yoga, meditating, eating well, traveling, spending time in nature, exercising, laughing, and focusing on loving freely and openly.

9. What is the issue nearest and dearest to your heart that you would like others to know more about?

There are so many – from LGBTQ rights to the protection of our environment. But the cause of so many of the problems facing our society today is the same: apathy. When we open our heart to the plight of “others” the world begins to transform in wonderful ways.

10. Please finish this sentence: “To me, being vegan is...”

…the ultimate expression of love.

Friday, October 6, 2017

SASHA Farm, October, 2017...

We've been lucky enough to be able to visit SASHA Farm since my son was a wee one with the Chicago Vegan Family Network and it remains one of the highlights of our year. Even at 15, our son still looks forward to our annual SASHA visit. Being able to interact with these innocent beings who have found freedom and sanctuary is so enriching to the vegan spirit and to see them in such a beautiful environment where they can just live their lives without fear or exploitation is gratifying beyond measure.

We met up with some of our vegan family crew and were able to bring along two additional young friends who are vegan. As soon as you pull up and hear the roosters crowing, see the sheep peacefully grazing, you know you are in a special kind of place. In all, it was a beautiful day, though, as always, bittersweet. Heartwarming to know these animals have found their way to sanctuary and heartbreaking to think of the billions more - no less full of personality and a capacity for pain than these individuals - who live their short lives, day-in and day-out, in the kind of sheer horror few of us could imagine. For now, though, we will keep sharing their pictures and their stories, hoping that humanity one day stops inflicting the needless brutalities we inflict upon them. Maybe then we'll begin to find peace? One can hope.

































Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Ten Questions: Vegan Rock Star with Diana Rein...

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Critically acclaimed blues-rock musician Diana Rein was born in Romania but grew up in Chicago, which is very evident in the soulful, lively music she creates. Labeled the “Six String Siren” by fans, the virtuoso guitarist and singer enjoys a growing fan-base as a working musician on the rise – she’s opened for Bonnie Raitt – and keeps a very busy schedule, but as she goes, she continues to be a voice for the animals and mindful, compassionate living from her platform. She will be playing at the San Diego Veg Fest October 1, so you will definitely want to check out the fest and her performance if you are in Southern California. I am honored to feature the warmhearted rock star Diana Rein as this week’s Vegan Rock Star.

1. First of all, we’d love to hear your “vegan evolution” story. How did you start out? Did you have any early influences or experiences as a young person that in retrospect helped to pave your path?
My sister, who is seven years older than me, became a vegetarian as a child after our pig named Poo-Choo was sent to slaughter in Romania. I was too little to understand the horrors of it all and as I grew up my family would give her so much grief about not eating meat that I didn’t think twice about eating meat. Somehow not eating meat meant less love to my child self so I kept eating it. But in my 20s after my mom had a hysterectomy due to cancer I researched everything I could to help her naturally after her surgery and to also help myself because I had digestive issues, acne, acid reflux. I ran across the raw vegan diet and I started doing that as well as eating cooked vegan foods...but sometimes I veered towards eating vegan junk food, which was way better than eating meat, but still not the healthiest. I did that off and on for a couple of years until finally in 2008, after taking daily yoga classes at a studio in Chicago, I just couldn’t bear the thought of eating anything with eyes, a soul and a heart anymore. My body didn’t want it and my compassionate self couldn’t handle that burden anymore. So ever since then, I’ve been eating a vegan raw or cooked diet.
2. Imagine that you are pre-vegan again: how could someone have talked to you and what could they have said or shown you that could have been the most effective way to have a positive influence on you moving toward veganism?
I find that the most popular documentaries that have come out over these last years like “What the Health” and “Forks Over Knives” can be very influential to someone wanting to know more. I also feel like the proof is in the pudding. I would have loved someone to make me a vegan meal and invite me over to see what the possibilities could be without any animal products on the dining table. Or I would have loved to have a friend that was thriving on the diet that could be a great example. But the bottom line is love. Loving yourself and working at it daily. When you love yourself, not from an egoic place, but from a spiritual place...you find it extremely difficult and heart wrenching to inflict pain on another being. So you naturally start seeing the error of your ways and clean up your karma. And compassion just flows over into every aspect of your life. If someone could have taught me that from the start it would have helped me avoid many hurtful moments and bad decisions in my life.
3. What have you found to be the most effective way to communicate your message as a vegan? For example, humor, passion, images, etc.?
I try not to draw attention to it on purpose. I tend to talk about my health struggles and how veganism has helped me because I know that most everyone is hurting on the Standard American Diet. Or if they are not hurting yet, they have family that is hurting. And once you are vegan for a while, you really start shining...especially if you stick to the more whole food plant based side of the vegan street. Heck, go to eating mostly fruit and you will glow like the brightest star. I am not a zealot about my lifestyle choices because I learned my lesson when I first started being a raw vegan in 2005. I started feeling so good that I couldn’t stop talking about it and it turned my family off. But once I just led by example and they saw the changes that were happening in my life over time...they started treading lightly on the path as well. My mom is fully vegan now, my Dad has gone on/off being vegan but he has dramatically reduced his consumption of animal products. My husband rarely eats any animal products at all. So I think the best way to be is to be is to do what you have to do to be healthy and happy, let it transform you from the inside out and then you won’t have to say a thing. People will be begging to know what your secret is.
4. What do you think are the biggest strengths of the vegan movement?
You can’t mess with the truth. There is way too much evidence now that animal products cause disease. I attribute it to the same trajectory that happened with cigarettes and smoking. It took awhile before people were convinced about the dangers but then it finally got ripped open and the jig was up. We are at the brink right now with veganism where the scales are tipping and people are finally waking up to the truth. Not only that, but man, we are bunch of awesome people that make change happen! In my community of Temecula, CA, we have a Facebook group called Temecula Valley Vegan Society and we are relentless to create vegan friendly options in this town. It’s so refreshing to be a part of a community that cares enough about every living being on this planet to create opportunities for others who have not woken up yet to see that there are options that don’t hurt animals. We are passionate people and passion will move mountains!
5. What do you think are our biggest hindrances to getting the word out effectively?
I think the biggest hindrance is Fear. Fear doesn’t allow people to be open-minded because eating a certain way is part of who they “think” they are. It’s their identity. And it doesn’t just come from ourselves...our friends and family also put a label on us so it can be really frightening to shift things because the ripple effect of that can also cause a disturbance in the relationships you have with everyone you know. That’s a lot to take on! So if we can aim to relay our message in a caring and understanding way then we can slide into that hard protective shell that people keep up and really allow them to think before they do. I also don’t feel it is necessary to tell people that have eaten meat their whole lives to stop cold turkey. We should tell them to just give it a try. Maybe just one meal a week, then maybe that can go to three, four, etc. Or maybe you can eat the plant and vegan foods first for a meal and then decide if you still need that meat. Here is the thing, we crave what we are currently eating. If someone who regularly eats meat starts eating more salads, it won’t be long before they crave some salad. And the slower they go through the transition, the less disturbed their ego will be and the less abrupt the change will be to those around them. Make it a transition and not a race.
6. All of us need a “why vegan” elevator pitch. We’d love to hear yours.
Your health will dramatically improve in every way, it is highly unlikely that you will get heart disease if you are eating a healthy vegan diet. Your sense of “helping make the world a better place” will feel very tangible when you realize that what you put on your plate makes a big difference. You are saving more than 100 animals a year by being vegan! You will decrease suffering on the planet. You will feel more love in your heart for all beings. You will let the powers that be know that you don’t stand for cruelty by putting your money into vegan products. Meat is full of bacteria, antibiotics and fluids from the animal, not to mention the energetic sadness and fear that comes from an animal that knows it is about to be slaughtered. I could spout off more but then it’s time to get real and say... Just take a moment, in silence. Listen to your heart, not your mind. I am sure that you will hear and feel what the right choice is.
7. Who are the people and what are the books, films, websites and organizations that have had the greatest influence on your veganism and your continuing evolution?
I adore Tao Porchon-Lynch who is one of the most amazing ladies I have ever learned of. She is 99 years old and still wears high heels and teaches multiple yoga classes every week on the East Coast. She also took up ballroom dancing in her 80’s. She is a total vegan rock star and she is really proving that with how active she is.
I am also in awe of Ellsworth Wareham, the 103 year old Heart Surgeon (who is no longer practicing) that became vegan in his 50s and is thriving and very active. I also have read a lot of Tonya Zavasta’s books on the raw vegan lifestyle and she is 60 years old but looks half her age, as well as Annette Larkins who became vegan at the age of 40. I have many examples of beautiful men and women that are radiating true beauty because of their vegan lifestyle.
I have also watched many films like “Fat Sick and Nearly Dead,” “Forks Over Knives,” “What the Health,” “Food Matters,” “Simply Raw: Reversing Diabetes,” “Super Size Me.” On my list to watch are also: “Vegucated” and “Peaceable Kingdom.” I have also done a 200-hour yoga teacher training and in reading the books that came along with my course, I came across the practice of ahimsa: the concept of not harming any living beings. So this message is everywhere, not specifically from a vegan book but why are there still people on the planet who are not listening? How is harming an animal any different than harming a human? We’ve been indoctrinated to believe that there is a hierarchy on this planet and there isn’t. The more we keep sharing that, the more it will get embedded into our makeup that we all belong and we all have a right to live out the journey we came here for.
8. Burn-out is so common among vegans: what do you do to unwind, recharge and inspire yourself?
I love doing Kundalini yoga and working with the breath and my energy field. I love going to the Ocean and being with my family on weekend getaways to just laugh and love.
I love not wearing shoes and grounding myself with Earth energy. I also love doing cleanses, especially with watermelon juice and dry fasting. I love playing guitar, which puts me in a meditative mode. I also love reading and researching new and old natural ways of healing as I really believe that the body can heal itself if given the chance.
9. What is the issue nearest and dearest to your heart that you would like others to know more about?
Well, my Mom has had a couple of cancer scares so I would say the big C word...Cancer. Since I do a lot of research I have read about many who have gone against the grain and have healed themselves naturally to the point where I feel that there is a cure and your body will take care of it if you give it the opportunity. If you cleanse it, if you exercise it, give it good water, fresh and raw foods, sunshine, reduce stress and get good sleep and dive into some emotional work...you can heal. But once again fear provided by the medical community doesn’t give people enough time to really figure this out. It’s been very depressing to see how my mother’s condition has been handled. The doctor’s talk so fast and push you hard to make decisions quickly and chastise you for doing any research or for opting out of treatments. It is truly sad because it doesn’t feel like they are really working with you from a heart place. It’s from a money place. Things are so twisted. So I just say take it back to square one and know that it is possible to heal from such a disease. And best of all, try your best to prevent it from ever happening. The most control that we have is with what we put in our bodies and on our bodies. So get to health by eating a vegan diet and also look at those lotions and potions that you use...there are so many vegan and natural options available nowadays. I don’t even wear perfume anymore. Way to many chemicals in commercially produced perfumes. It’s all about the energetic and healing powers of essential oils...and they smell so good!
10. Please finish this sentence: “To me, being vegan is...”
...the only way to be.”
It will change your life and it will be a domino effect where things just start going well in all areas of your life. Health, Love, Work, Sleep will improve. Moods, Stress…everything negative will start falling away and the Universe will reward you for your positive life shift. Your frequency will starting rising up higher and higher and you will attract better and better things. It’s a gift for the gift of life we are not taking away from sentient beings. And do yourself a favor and visit an animal farm sanctuary. See how full your heart feels when you get the privilege of being close to a beautiful animal. They know so much more than we do and they feel so much more. They are way more enlightened than us. It will hurt because you will get a download of all of the horrible pain that us humans have inflicted on such innocent beings. But it’ll keep you a vegan for life. Your whole being will desire to be a part of this shift.